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These days, more and more super single babes find it difficult to get a life partner. The rate of single babes who are over 30 and are still single is very alarming. It can be frustrating and worrisome when a lady is materially and psychologically ready for marriage but the only thing missing is the right partner. And at this age, most ladies lose their self esteem and courage and tend to see themselves as inadequate or undesirable, which has made some of these ladies to settle for any man that is far below their standard. Some may even attribute their single status to a spiritual battle especially when they have prayed for a partner and nobody seems to be coming.
To a large degree, heartbreaks and disappointments in life have been responsible for people especially ladies remaining single at a certain age when they are expected to be engaged or married. While the fact that most men are also not ready to settle down is another bigger challenge, so out of desperation, some of these ladies have fallen into the wrong hands of men who swindle them of their money and asset as they profess undying love to them. In this report, City People Fashion Editor, BOLA AKINBOADE presents to you some of the reasons why ladies are still single, plus the desperate measures they take.

MOST ELIGIBLE MEN ARE NOT READY TO SETTLE DOWN
One of the reasons why more and more babes remain single is the fact that most of the eligible men are not ready to settle down as they are still struggling and hustling to make ends meet. Studies have revealed that the society favors women more than men. Most of the time, it takes a little time for a serious minded woman to get to the top of her career than her male counterparts. It’s easy for a woman to strike a business deal, as they melt people heart easily and there is this attraction for them, unlike their male counterpart. Women also tend to get employed shortly after they graduate than men, and begin their career immediately. And that is why today, taking a survey at the top of most companies in Nigeria, you will find women holding key position in these companies with a fat take home pay. And due to this factor, and because the men are not at the level they want or not financially buoyant, marriage will definitely be the last thing on their mind. The fact that the standard and cost of living in the country keeps increasing everyday will make any hustling man take a second thought towards marriage.

HEART BREAKS
Ask any lady that is still single at 30 and she will tell you her heartbreak experience is somehow attributed to her marital status. Some were sure of their relationship leading to marriage until their partner suddenly broke up with them at the eleventh hour. Some can therefore trust any man because of their past experience, and some are not getting advances from men because they are looking miserable and gloomy as a result of hurts and pains they have not been healed of.

TOO BUSY PURSUING CAREER
For some of these women, one of the reasons why they are still single is the fact that they throw themselves into their work and find no time for socializing and relationships. This has affected a lot of women, and before they know it, they are close to 40 and time is really against them. The thing is, more and more singles are delaying marriage in pursuit of career. In the past, women marry in their early 20s. If you were to marry in your mid-20s, it is considered old. But now, many women are still not married by the time they are in their 30s. A lot of times, it is because these women are so focused on building their career in the early part of their life. And when they finally decide to settle down, they discover that it is not as easy to find a partner in their 30s as opposed to when they are in their 20s.

SUCCESS FUL WOMAN CAN BE A TURN OFF
For some of these women, their successful profile and status can actually work against them making it difficult to find a man. This is because their success pose as a threat to any man who does not measure up to them (unfortunately few men who are within their age range are in that same level with them), so inferiority complex also sets in and
the men get easily intimidated by the success of the women, maybe the lady is very rich, and has a good car and all that and he might not have any. So he might feel intimidated.

LIMITED CHOICES AVAILABLE
Another factor working against the super single babes is the fact that they have limited choices available. Because of their age bracket, most men that will be able to meet up with their standards will be either married men, divorced, or widow. Because for them, age is not on their side, except for some of them who do not mind settling with a younger man in as much as the love and respect is there.

TOO PICKY
For some women, because they are already so successful, its becomes so difficult for them to date any man, they become too picky. These set of women have high standards and play too hard to get. And they have high expectations that men cant meet up to. And some of these women have the picture of their ‘ideal man’ and not ready to compromise their standards. By doing that, they shut their mind to the other men that do not fit into the picture of what they want, which makes it even more difficult for them to settle down as they are still waiting for their Prince Charming.

TOO INDEPENDENT AND UNCONTROLABLE
Some women are also too independent and uncontrolable, and this makes them difficult for any man to control them, or even attracted to them. Some of these upwardly mobile career women who have it all career-wise feels nothing for relationships. Some of these women feel they need to be independent, therefore, they work hard at achieving a career for themselves which affects their dating life. These women see marriage as loss of freedom, because of the belief that once you are married and settled down with kids, you have to give up on those things that you are passionate about, if not, the homefront will be affected. And because these women are self sufficient and do not need a man, its also difficult for a man to also put up with them.

FINDING A DECENT MAN
The challenge of finding a decent man who is loyal and hardworking is another challenge women face these days. A lot of the men out there are too eager to make money and they will go at any length to make money. This can be traced to the emergence of ‘Yahoo Boys’ in town right now, the like to live large, but work less. So some of them are into illegitimate businesses that most women cant put up with. Other men who are ‘Gigolo’ tend to milk any woman who falls into their trap. They profess superficial love, and out of desperation and inability of the women to see through them, they fall madly inlove with these set of guys. And because their target are always successful and financially bouyant women, they begin to deman unresonably from the woman who gives out of love. And when they have milked the woman dry, they move on to the next victim. Other habits that pisses ladies off are smoking and drinking heavily which is becoming more and more common among the men.

MEN’S DESIRE FOR YOUNGER WOMEN
Others cant find a decent guy because guys their age look for girls in their early 20s, not 30s.Men in their 30s cannot successfully date their age mates as most women who fall in this age bracket are very career focused or focused on just making it in life hence are very much equal to their men making it difficult to create a strong relationship bond (You know men and their ego and about who wears the pants in the relationship). The men therefore then opt for much younger girls in their early 20s who may not be interested in getting married in the short term. This makes most single women in their 30s stuck with flings, or dating younger men with zero marriage prospects.

DATING MARRIED MEN
Most ladies who start up early in their lives dating married men rather than single guys usually get stuck later in life. This is because they would have wasted their time with these men, who obviously won’t be settling down with them. But for most of these ladies, they have access to financial support as the married men spoil them silly with the good things of life. These ladies want to ride exotic cars, live in posh apartments, enjoy business connection, good jobs, etc. and before they realize it, time will catch up on them and the search for them to find a single man to settle down with becomes difficult.

LOOKING FOR MR RIGHT
Some ladies are still on the waiting list because they are looking for Mr. Right. Some women have refused to commit unless they find a man with whom they feel a deep, romantic love for, despite the fact that they are even in their 30s. They believe in holding out for true love no matter how long it might take them. These set of women do not believe in settling for Mr Second best, as they strongly believe that that perfect man is out there, and before they realize it, time has gone. And they are now full of regret for turning down most of the marriage proposals.

DESPERATE MEASURES TAKEN BY THE WOMEN
Most of these super single ladies are becoming more and more desperate in their quest to settle down. They will go at any length these days just to change their status from single to married. The society and parental pressure is one of the reasons pushing the ladies, because despite a lady’s achievement in the society, family and society looks at her in a funny way. Women could become desperate due to societal values that tend to have more respect for married women than single women, the thought of not being able to have children at a certain age and the need for companion. The rate at which these ladies visit spiritual home is very alarming, while others have become regulars at the big crusades and deliverance meetings of some of the big churches in town. Some ladies don’t even wait for the men to propose again, once a guy just shows a little interest in them, they go all the way to start pampering the men, taking him out and spending heavily on him after which they propose. Others also woo the men by agreeing to foot the wedding bills. At this point, they do not care whether the man is financially buoyant. In as much as the man has vision and potentials, they are ready to walk down the aisle with him. Desperation has also made these women push themselves all out and always at any event or places that there is possibility for them to meet potential husband. Some people go as much as registering with match making agencies which have suddenly sprung up in Lagos to meet the needs of these men. Some of them pay a lot just to register with this agencies, who then try to match make them. While others join social network sites to find their dream man. They post their photographs and data and detailing the characteristics and traits they want in their man.

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