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6 SUREFIRE WAYS TO DEAL WITH A JEALOUS FRIEND/PARTNER

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Typically jealousy
can be quite flattering especially when it’s from a partner, but the reality is
that, after a while, dealing with a jealous person can get quite difficult and
frustrating. Learning ways to deal with a jealous person can help you to
eventually establish a healthy relationship with the person. Jumia Travel, the leading
online travel agency, shares 6 ways to deal with a jealous person.
Try To
Understand the Reason for Their Jealousy
This largely
involves trying to understand the specific triggers, reasons or roots for feelings
of jealousy in the person that will help you effectively deal with the
situation. Basically what you should eventually understand is that the jealousy
of a friend or partner isn’t particularly motivated by who you are but by
something you possess that they either wish was theirs or they could keep all
to themselves (i.e. unwilling to share with any other).

Try To Avoid
Pampering Them
You should be
understanding to the person quite alright, but try to avoid responding to and
validating the feelings of jealousy your friend or partner has. This doesn’t
mean you should ignore the person or ignore the fact that they are jealous, but
more like you should not let the fact that they are jealous dictate and control
your actions and reactions towards them.
Avoid Their
Jealousy Triggers
In trying to
understand the reason for their jealousy, once you have been able to identify
certain things you do or certain situations that trigger or incite feelings of
jealousy in a friend or partner, as much as you can, try to avoid doing those
things amidst them or being in those kinds of situations with them.
Talk to the
Person
Talk to the person
and be open about your feelings (however, be careful with your words and don’t
be insulting or caustic with your words in the name of being truthful).
Communicate to the person about certain behaviours they exhibit when jealous
that bothers you, how you feel about them, how they affect you as an individual
and how they affect your relationship with the person. Sometimes a jealous
person is unaware of their irrational behaviours, so you have to gently and
patiently communicate this.
Distinguish
Between Relationship Abuse and Jealousy
There is quite a
thin line between these two so you have to be careful and meticulous with this
one. Be vigilant and sure that the jealousy of this person has not escalated to
some kind of emotional abuse to you. Once physical abuse has begun that’s all
the sign you need and will ever need to leave immediately.
Try to Address
the Person’s Insecurities and Trust Issues
The only thing
that can truly help a jealous person get better is when he/she is able to
effectively deal with their insecurities or trust issues. This is because
insecurities and trust issues are the underlying causes of feelings of
jealousy. For trust issues, the both of you can try to take active roles in
building trust in the relationship by simply deciding to trust one another no
matter what. Insecurities require a bit more effort but once the triggers of
the insecurities are identified, it’s possible to effectively deal with and
overcome the insecurities.

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